When I moved into my dorm room for my freshman year of college, I was a nervous wreck. My mom, however, was a woman on a mission — to make my bed. She worked quickly around my lofted bunk, tucking in the freshly laundered sheets (with a hospital corner, naturally), smoothing out the colorful comforter, and stacking two pillows squarely at the top. The quickest way to make a new space feel like home, she believed, was to make the bed.
I’ve carried that with me in the dozen spots I’ve lived in since. In the whirlwind of our recent move to Los Angeles, I set aside two big boxes labeled “Bedding,” washed and ready to be put on as soon as the beds came off our moving truck. It had the intended effect — my kids shrieked with delight when they saw their rooms for the first time. Even two-year-old Bird, who has been mighty confused by the move, shouted: “MY BED! MY BED!”
Making the beds gave me a small sense of accomplishment on that chaotic moving day and in the days since. We’re living in a state of disarray at the moment, surrounded by stuff spilling out of boxes. It makes me crazy, if I'm being honest. But at least the beds are made? I think my mom would be proud.
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PS: If you need more make-your-bed encouragement, check out this fantastic commencement address by Naval Adm. William McRaven at the University of Texas (the bed bit starts around 4:45).
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READ: How many times have I used the phrase “working mom” without realizing how absurd it is? Have you ever heard anyone describe a man as a “working dad” — because I sure haven’t. Thanks to Katherine Goldstein and Jo Piazza for this piece on why we need to retire the term. (Romper)
SHOP: A fun and fancy sweatshirt for fall (size down!). (Target)
LAUGH: H/t to Courtney in my mom’s group for sharing this, I’m using it as new home design inspo. (TikTok)
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